This blog post is an excerpt from the new ebook Expand Your Parenting Toolbox: Create a More Peaceful Home which can be purchased on Amazon.com.
I know, this seems strange, but I’m serious.
If no one is in immediate danger…
Wait for your child to think, then respond.
Wake up a few minutes earlier and wait while your child dresses herself or toilets himself.
When calling your children inside for dinner, wait. They may be wrapping up a game or saying good bye to friends.
They wait on us quite often at the store, at appointments, while we are at work.
It’s our turn to wait.
Leave long pauses so your child can think and respond.
Leave the pauses so your children can bring up difficult topics they want to discuss.
Sometimes we are so busy talking, rushing, or yelling that we forget that patience can help de-escalate difficult situations and help us to better understand our children.
Take a moment.
Take a few breathes.
It’s their turn.
Listen and wait.